Mismatched personalities in marriage, parenting or in work or friendship situations, can cause frustration, anger and at times, wounded feelings.
Someone who is not wired as we are, does not think like we do and who makes decisions and carries out actions we would never dream of, can rub us the wrong way. It causes our feathers to ruffle and not-so-nice thoughts enter our brains.
Usually, if dealing with a non-family member, we manage to keep our composure and tame our tongues to avoid saying anything we might regret. With our children or spouses however, sometimes we open the floodgates and spew cutting comments, nasty words, criticisms and awful accusations.
“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. On the lips of him who has understanding, wisdom is found…” Proverbs 10:12-13a
Love is key to wise responses in a relationship. Because we love God, and others, we should seek to understand when we clash. And ask God for wisdom when we don’t understand. We should love intentionally. Not necessarily in an “ushy-gushy, touchy-feely” way, but in an “I am going to choose to react gently and behave kindly because that is what God is asking me to do” sort of way.
Cementing this thinking in our minds will help us to respond with God’s love and biblical truth. Especially when faced with someone who thinks and acts differently than us.
Will you join me in purposing to stop stirring up strife when it comes to someone in your life? And to choose to love and understand them? Especially when they are oil while you are water.
So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Galatians 5:16